Last night I had a good friend of mine call me in a virtual tizzy due to a marital dispute as to how often they should be having sex and upon whose initiation. Very deep topics. Not unique ones though. While I would argue that sex should never be a compromise or a bargaining chip, by any means, it thematically seems to become so. How about some more discussion on this topic. There are a lot of relationship related issues out there and I take them as they come. This one is of particular interest due to the sensitive nature of the topic. Let me know what you think about it and I’ll share my views in my next post. 
Is Sex Just Another Compromise in Marriage? L-T Relationships?
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I don’t view marriage as a series of compromises to begin with. Compromise sounds so…congressional. Marriage involves sacrifice, certainly, and selflessness. But the joy that comes from pleasing your mate far surpasses the pain of the sacrifice.
Sex is negotiated in the context of any meaningful relationship. Frequency, stress, urges, experimentation, emotions, etc. all come into play when things are good and bad. Intimacy is the real issue. We all have different requirements for our space. Sex is an inherently selfish act. Whatever your stated motivations in partcipating, you participate for what you get out of it. You consistently must decide whether you are willing to do what is expected/desired. The more that you are committed to the relationship, I believe that you are willing to accomodate your partner/spouse. When questions are asked, especially about sex and performance, the negotiation begins.
Thanks for adding your perspective to a rather sensitive topic. I did intend to study this topic a bit more closely and write about my general findings. I’m starting a sister blog that will address these types of issues – society and relationships.